No police station

D day arrived and with it came the thought “what will the wicked witch do?”. The problem is that the majority of the time, she is totally unpredictable. She could either turn up and then just leave, or she could go to the police, or she may just not even turn up! We sent her an e-mail and a text message a few days ago asking her when she was going to collect Yain on the 1^st January to see if she had accepted that it would be that way or not. She didn’t reply. To either one.

So anyway, we wake up on the 31^st, I honestly have not slept so well as I have a million images in my head about what may take place today. One of those images involves us having coffee with the police whilst trying to explain the situation and the other is a slightly more violent image involving me and the wicked witch. Don’t worry, I am not a violent person, so that image will always just remain in my head, not so sure about the other image though!

 Xavi decides he just wants to find out what is going on, so he phones her. She doesn’t pick up the phone, but a few minutes later she sends a text saying “What do you want?” So he phones her again. She puts on her victim voice. She always has to play the victim, the way she answers the phone, the way she walks, the way she stands by the car waiting for us to bring Yain over. She is so strong and harsh in her e-mails and her text messages, but such a victim in person. I think one would call her a COWARD!

So anyway, xavi phones her and she is like ‘what do you want?’

 ‘To find out what time you are coming to pick up Yaincoa’

‘Oh, whenever is good for you’

WHAT?

SERIOSULY?

A few days ago she is threatening to go to the police if we don’t give her Yaincoa on the morning of the 31^st, and now suddenly she is all like ‘Whatever is best for you’???????????? I am telling you that she does have some serious kind of personality disorder or she just does this to screw with us! It really makes us feel like we are going insane.

image taken from www.awbfam.blogspot.com

New Years Eve at the Police Station?

So tomorrow is D day. Will the police show up at the flat or not?

For those of you who don’t know the story, it goes a little something like this: Yaincoa’s mother, wicked witch, is evil. Sorry, but it is the truth. I dislike her intensely and no, it is not one of those jealousy or intimidation issues or any other Freudian issue, she is a horrible person and although I have done what I can to try to make the relationship between all of us amicable, but it is impossible with this woman!

Yaincoa is currently in his Christmas vacations. We have shared custody with the wicked witch and according to the papers, we get yaincoa for the first half of the vacations and she gets him for the second half. Up until this point, everybody is in agreement. His holiday are from the 23^rd December to the 9^th January, both days included. This makes 18 days. Half of 18 is 9 isn’t it? Now by my calculations that means 9 days with us means that she should come and collect yaincoa on the morning of the 1^st January to start her 9 days. However that is where everything has fallen apart. Wicked witch appears to believe that she should be collecting her son on the morning of the 31^st. She wants him for New Years Eve. I may hear some of you going “Oh, but she simply wants to be with her son to celebrate the New Year, that’s sweet”.

Let me choke away my vomit and explain to you the fiasco of last year:

There is a bar/restaurant in the marina where wicked witch works. It is an open plan place where smoking is allowing. Yaincoa, was 7 years old last year, he has asthma and chronic bronchitis. So last year wicked with takes him to a party in this bar/restaurant filled with smokers where they remain ‘partying’ until 5am. Thereafter they slept in some boat for 3 hours and then mommy drove them the 18km ride along the highway home. Very nice and responsible huh?

Wicked witch wants Yaincoa this year because quite frankly she is not much without her son and because that way she doesn’t have to get up early on New Year’s Day and come and fetch him. We have informed her several times and very clearly that he will be with us on New Year’s Eve. Her last response was that if we don’t give her Yaincoa on the 31^st, she will go directly to the police station to put a report against Xavi, and refuses to reply to any further messages asking what time she will be here to collect her son on the 1^st January. She does not ask herself why we are so sure about what we are saying as she is so used to threatening xavi and having him back down for the benefit of Yaincoa and out of fear about what she may do. Not this year. She also does not think how it could be for Yaincoa if his mother comes to the flat trying to get her son, and the possible confrontation of us then saying No. How would a little 8 year old boy feel about that happening and seeing mommy and daddy fighting about who is to go with? Is she capable of coming to the flat and making a scene despite how it could affect her son? Damn right she is!

This has put us in a bit of a pickle. We have had to go to see our lawyers and get clarification on this. It is a slightly grey area, however we have been assured that we are right. We have had to go to the school and asked for a signed certificate stating the days of Christmas holiday this year, and we have had to leave yaincoa with his grandparents until tomorrow afternoon, therefore affecting our plans and things we wanted to do with him to ensure that he is not in the flat tomorrow morning just in case she comes around. If she does indeed show up and then goes to report xavi, it may transpire that the police will then turn up at the flat to find out what is going on. Again, do you think she cares about how that will affect her son, seeing the police coming to talk to daddy about why he won’t give his son over? No she doesn’t.

Xavi is worried because he knows the law is blatantly unfair the law is towards fathers, and he knows that when a mother goes into a police station playing the victim and claiming that the father of her child won’t give her child to her, he can imagine the police response. He is understandably worried, but I have told him not to worry, we will deal with it together.

So here we sit and wonder, will the police turn up at the flat tomorrow or not?

Tick tock, tick tock . . . .